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WHO WILL CRYWHEN YOU DIE- ROBIN SHARMATHE TRAGEDY OF LIFE IS NOT DEATH, BUT WHAT WE LET DIE INSIDE OF US WHILE WELIVE.-ContentsPreface1. Discover Your Calling2. Every Day, Be Kind to a Stranger3. Maintain Your Perspective4. Practice Tough Love5. Keep a Journal6. Develop an Honesty Philosophy7. Honor Your Past8. Start Your Day Well9. Learn to Say No Gracefully10. Take a Weekly Sabbatical11. Talk to Yourself12. Schedule Worry Breaks13. Model a Child14. Remember, Genius Is 99 Percent Inspiration15. Care for the Temple16. Learn to Be Silent17. Think About Your Ideal Neighborhood18. Get Up Early19. See Your Troubles as Blessings20. Laugh More21. Spend a Day Without Your Watch22. Take More Risks23. Live a LifeNORMAN COUSINS

24. Learn from a Good Movie25. Bless Your Money26. Focus on the Worthy27. Write Thank – You Notes28. Always Carry a Book with You29. Create a Love Account30. Get Behind People’s Eyeballs31. List Your Problems32. Practice the Action Habit33. See Your Children as Gifts34. Enjoy the Path, Not Just the Reward35. Remember That Awareness Precedes Change36. Read Tuesday’s With Morrie37. Master Your Time38. Keep Your Cool39. Recruit a Board of Directors40. Cure Your Monkey Mind41. Get Good at Asking42. Looking for the Higher Meaning of Your Work43. Build a Library of Heroic Books44. Develop Your Talents45. Connect with Nature46. Use Your Commute Time47. Go on a News Fast48. Get Serious About Setting Goals49. Remember the Rule of 2150. Practice Forgiveness51. Drink Fresh Fruit Juice52. Create a Pure Environment53. Walk in the Woods54. Get a Coach55. Take a Mini – Vacation56. Become a Volunteer57. Find Your Six Degrees of Separation58. Listen to Music Daily59. Write a Legacy Statement60. Find Three Great Friends61. Read The Artist’s Way62. Learn to Meditate63. Have a Living Funeral

64. Stop Complaining and Start Living65. Increase Your Value66. Be a Better Parent67. Be Unorthodox68. Carry a Goal Card69. Be More than Your Moods70. Savor the Simple Stuff71. Stop Condemning72. See Your Day as Your Life73. Create a Master Mind Alliance74. Create a Daily Code of Conduct75. Imagine a richer reality76. Become he CEO of Your Life77. Be Humble78. Don’t Finish Every Book You Start79. Don’t Be So Hard on Yourself80. Make a Vow of Silence81. Don’t Pick Up the Phone Every Time It Rings82. Remember That Recreation Must Involve Re – creation83. Choose Worthy Opponents84. Sleep Less85. Have a Family Mealtime86. Become an Imposter87. Take a Public Speaking Course88. Stop Thinking Tiny Thoughts89. Don’t Worry About Things You Can’t Change90. Learn How to Walk91. Rewrite Your Life Story92. Plant a tree93. Find Your Place of Peace94. Take More Pictures95. Be an Adventurer96. Decompress Before You Go Home97. Respect Your Instincts98. Collect Quotes That Inspire You99. Love Your Work100.Selflessly Serve101.Live Fully so You Can Die Happy

PrefaceI honor you for picking up this book. In doing so, you have made the decision to love more deliberately,more joyfully and completely. You have decided to live your life by choice rather than by chance, by designrather than by default. And for this, I applaud you.Since Writing the two previous books in The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari series, I have receivedcountless letters from readers who saw their lives change through the wisdom they discovered. Thecomments of these men and women inspired and moved me. Many of the notes I received also encouragedme to distill all that I have learned about the art of living into a series of life lessons. And so, I set aboutcompiling the best I have to give into a book that I truly believe will help transform your life.The words on the following pages are heartfelt and written in the high hope that you will not onlyconnect with the wisdom I respectfully offer but act on it to create lasting improvements in every life area.Through my own trials, I have found that it is not enough to know what to do – we must act on thatknowledge in order to have the lives we want.And so as you turn the pages of this third book in The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari series, I hope youwill discover a wealth of wisdom that will enrich the quality of your professional, personal and spiritual life.Please do write to me, send me an e-mail or visit with me at one of my seminars to share how you haveintegrated the lessons in this book into the way you live. I will do my very best to respond to your letterswith a personal note I wish you deep peace, great prosperity and many happy days spent engaged in aworthy purpose.Robin S. SharmaEmil address: [email protected] address: www.robinsharma.com

Edited by Foxit ReaderCopyright(C) by Foxit Software Company,2005-2008For Evaluation Only.1.Discover Your CallingWhen I was growing up, my father said something to me I will never forget, “Son, when you were born, youcried while the world rejoiced. Live your life in such a way that when you die the world cries while yourejoice.” We live in an age when we have forgotten what life is all about. We can easily put a person on theMoon, but we have trouble walking across the street to meet a new neighbor. We can fire a missile acrossthe world with pinpoint accuracy, but we have trouble keeping a date with our children to go to the library.We have e-mail, fax machines and digital phones so that we can stay connected and yet we live in a timewhere human beings have never been less connected. We have lost touch with our humanity. We have losttouch with our purpose. We have lost sight of the things that matter the most.And so, as you start this book, I respectfully ask you, Who will cry when you die? How many lives willyou touch while you have the privilege to walk this planet? What impact will your life have on thegenerations that follow you? And what legacy will you leave behind after you have taken your last breath?One of the lessons I have learned in my own life is that if you don’t act on life, life has a habit of acting onyou. The days slip into weeks, the weeks slip into months and the months slip into years. Pretty soon it’s allover and you are left with nothing more than a heart filled with regret over a life half lived. Bernard Shawwas asked on his deathbed, “What would you do if you could live your life over again?” He reflected, thenreplied with a deep sigh: “I’d like to be the person I could have been but never was.” I’ve written this bookso that this will never happen to you.As a professional speaker, I spend much of my work life delivering keynote addresses at conferencesacross North America, flying from city to city, sharing my insights on leadership in business and in life withmany different people. Though they all come from diverse walks of life, their questions invariably center onthe same things these days: How can I find greater meaning in my life? How can I make a lastingcontribution through my work? And How can I simplify so that I can enjoy the journey of life before it istoo late?My answer always begins the same way: Find your calling. I believe we all have special talents that arejust waiting to be engaged in a worthy pursuit. We are all here for some unique purpose, some nobleobjective that will allow us to manifest our higher human potential while we, at the same time, add value tothe lives around us. Finding your calling doesn’t mean you must leave the job you now have. It simplymeans you need to bring more of yourself into your work and focus on the things you do best. It means youhave to stop waiting for other people to make the changes you desire and, as Mahatma Gandhi noted: “Bethe change that you wish to see most in your world.” And once you do, your life will change.

2.Every Day, be Kind to a StrangerOn his deathbed, Aldous Huxley reflected on his entire life’s learning and then summed it up in sevensimple words: “Let us be kinder to one another.” All too often, we believe that in order to live a trulyfulfilling life we must achieve some great act or grand feat that will put us on the front covers of magazinesand newspapers. Nothing could be further from the truth. A meaningful life is made up of a series of dailyacts of decency and kindness, which, ironically, add up to something truly great over the course of alifetime.Everyone who enters your life has a lesson to teach and a story to tell. Every person you pass during themoments that make up your days represents an opportunity to show a little more of the compassion andcourtesy that define your humanity. Why not start being more of the person you truly are during your daysand doing what you can to enrich the world around you? In my mind, if you make even one person smileduring your day or brighten the mood of even one stranger, your day has been a worthwhile one. Kindness,quite simply, is the tent we must pay for the space we occupy on this planet.Become more creative in the ways you show compassion to strangers. Paying the toll for the person inthe car behind you, offering your seat on the subway to someone in need and being the first to say hello aregreat places to start. Recently, I received a letter from a reader of The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari who livesin Washington State. In it she wrote: “I have a practice of tithing to people who have helped me along myspiritual path. Please accept the enclosed check of 100 with my blessing and gratitude.” I quicklyresponded to her generous act by spending one of my audiotape programs in return so she received value forthe gift she sent me. Her gesture was a great lesson in the importance of giving sincerely and from the heart.

3.Maintain Your PerspectiveOne day, according to an old story, a man with a serious illness was wheeled into a hospital room whereanother patient was resting on a bed next to the window. As the two became friends, the one next to thewindow would look out of it and then spend the next few hours delighting his bedridden companion withvivid descriptions of the world outside. Some days he would describe the beauty of the trees in the parkacross from the hospital and how the leaves danced in the wind. On other days, he would entertain his friendwith step - by – step replays of the things people were doing as they walked by the hospital. However, astime went on, the bedridden man grew frustrated at his inability to observe the wonders his friend described.Eventually he grew to dislike him and then to hate him intensely.One night, during a particularly bad coughing fit, the patient next to the window stopped breathing.Rather than pressing the button for help, the other man chose do nothing. The next morning the patient whohad given his friend so much happiness by recounting the sights outside the window was pronounced deadand wheeled out of the hospital room. The other man quickly asked that his bed be placed next to thewindow, a request that was complied with the attending nurse. But as he looked out the window, hediscovered something that made him shake: the window faced a stark brick wall. His former roommate hadconjured up the incredible sights that he described in his imagination as a loving gesture to make the worldof his friend a little bit better during a difficult time. He had acted out of selfless love.This story never fails to create a shift in my own perspective when I think about it. To live happier, morefulfilling lives, when we encounter a difficult circumstance, we must keep shifting our perspective andcontinually ask ourselves, “Is there a wiser, more enlightened way of looking at this seemingly negativesituation?” Stephen Hawking, one of the greatest physicists ever, is reported to have said that we live on aminor planet of a very average star located within the outer limits of one of a hundred thousand milliongalaxies. How’s that for a shift in perspective? Given this information, are your troubles really that big? Arethe problems you have experienced or the challenges you might currently be facing really as serious as youhave made them out to be?We walk this planet for such a short time. In the overall scheme of things, our lives are mere blips on thecanvas of eternity. So have the wisdom to enjoy the journey and savor the process.

4.Practice Tough LoveThe golden thread of a highly successful and meaningful life is self – discipline. Discipline allows you to doall those things you know in your heart you should do but never feel like doing. Without self – discipline,you will not set clear goals, manage your time effectively, treat people well, persist through the tough times,care for your health or think positive thoughts.I call the habit of self – discipline “Tough Love” because getting tough with yourself is actually a veryloving gesture. By being stricter with yourself, you will begin to live life more deliberately, on your ownterms rather than simply reacting to life the way a leaf floating in a stream drifts according to the flow of thecurrent on a particular day. As I teach in one of my seminars, the tougher you are on yourself, the easier lifewill be on you. The quality of your life ultimately is shaped by the quality of your choices and decisions,ones that range from the career you choose to pursue to the books you read, the time that you wake up everymorning and the thoughts you think during the hours of your days, when you consistently flex yourwillpower by making those choices that you know are the right ones (rather than the easy ones), you takeback control of your life. Effective, fulfilled people do not spend their time doing what is most convenientand comfortable. They have the courage to listen to their hearts and to do the wise thing. This habit is whatmakes them great.“The successful person has the habit of doing the things failures don’t like to do,” remarked essayist andthinker E.M. Gray. “They don’t like doing them either, necessarily. But their disliking is subordinated to thestrength of their purpose.” The nineteenth – century English writer Thomas Henry Huxley arrived at asimilar conclusion, n