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St. Dominic’s Catholic ChurchSan FranciscoPlanning Funeraland Memorial LiturgiesA guide to help you make decisionsSt. Dominic’s Church2390 Bush StreetSan Francisco, CA 94115 415.567-7824 x 104 [email protected] 4.20.21

St. Dominic’s Catholic Church2390 Bush StreetSan Francisco, CA 94115From the Pastor:Arranging Funerals and MemorialsThe sadness of death should give way in our liturgy to the promise of resurrected life. Ourcelebration of a person’s life should reflect our conviction that in Jesus Christ we have life beyondlife.St. Dominic’s is pleased to offer its parishioners and friends the complete rites as a means ofconsolation for the living and grace-filled assistance for the deceased. These rites, which include afuneral Mass and the possibility of a vigil in the church or funeral home, are most properlycelebrated in the parish church of the deceased, in the presence of their faith community.All remains are treated with the same honor; and the Church takes very seriously its responsibility tooffer corporal works of mercy. We are now able to offer a niche in our Columbarium where thecremated remains may be placed for eternity. Committals of cremated remains at the Columbariumcan take place at the end of a funeral service or as a separate prayer service of committal if thefuneral has already taken place.Funerals at St. Dominic’s are therefore limited to Catholic parishioners and to those with significantties to the parish.Funerals are normally held at Monday to Friday at times depending on clergy and church availability.A vigil is normally held the afternoon or evening before, at the church or at the funeral home.The first step to take when planning a funeral liturgy is to consult one of ourDominican Priests. This may be done by contacting the main office.St. Dominic’s Catholic Church2390 Bush Street,San Francisco, CA 94115.415.567.7824Fr. Michael Hurley, O.P.-2-

SERVICES WE ARE ABLE TO OFFER YOUThe most common form of Catholic funeral has the following elements:1. Vigil service with either the body or cremated remains present.2. Funeral Mass or service with either the body or cremated remains present.3. Graveside service with burial of the body or cremated remains or4. Placing of cremated remains in St. Dominic’s ColumbariumAnother option is a memorial Mass or service with no remains present. These can take place closeto the time of death or at some convenient time for the gathering of friends and family.VIGIL SERVICESPrayer service (suitable for congregations of mixed faiths)Prayer service with rosary – see below (suitable for congregations of mixed faiths)Rosary alone – usually five decades of the rosary. (suitable where most of the congregation areCatholic).The vigil service may be held at the funeral home, the church or at a private home. This could meanthat you decide to have it at the home of the deceased.Vigils may be led by a priest or deacon.The vigil is the best time to have memorials, eulogies, as well as secular music and readings, such aspoems.1.2.3.VIGIL SERVICE WITH ROSARYIntroductory RitesThis includes prayers and an introduction from the priest or deacon.MeditationsThese commonly include a short reading from scripture to illustrate a decade of the rosary followedby the praying of that decade. There are usually three or four meditations.Homily and ReflectionsHere the priest or deacon will preach a suitable homily based on the life of the deceased in relationto the gospel. Reflections, other readings and eulogies may follow.Concluding PrayersPrayers conclude the vigil service.-3-

FUNERAL MASSES1Funeral Mass with body or cremated remains present.The funeral Mass is held at the church. At the entrance to the church the remains are sprinkled withholy water and covered with a pall, a reminder of baptism. When the procession reaches the frontof the church an open bible and a crucifix, symbols of Christian faith, may be placed on the casket.An urn of cremated remains may be carried in procession or placed on a table at the front of thechurch before the service begins.A flag may be placed on a casket after communionImmediately following the service the urn of cremated remains may be placed in a niche in the St.Dominic’s Columbarium.2Memorial Mass (no remains present)The memorial Mass is held in church just like a funeral Mass, but no remains are present. Theopening of Mass is like a more usual Mass with an Opening Song, Greeting and Penitential Act.COMMITTAL PRAYER SERVICEIn cases where a funeral service has already taken place we offer a simple prayer service forcommittal of cremated remains at the Columbarium.-4-

OUTLINE OF A FUNERAL MASSIntroductory Rites*At the entrance to the church the remains are sprinkled with holy water and covered with a pall, areminder of baptism. When the procession reaches the front of the church an open bible and acrucifix, symbols of Christian faith, are placed on or near the casket or urn.The Liturgy of the Word First Reading Psalm (usually sung) [Second Reading (optional)] Gospel Reading Homily The Universal PrayerLiturgy of the Eucharist The Offertory* (Bread and wine are brought to the altar) The Eucharistic Prayer The Lord’s Prayer and The Peace Communion*Final Commendation and Farewell The remains are sprinkled with holy water and honored with incense and the pall isremoved. The service may continue at a cemetery for interment of a casket or at the Columbarium forcommittal of cremated remains. An Urn of cremated remains may be placed in the Columbarium with appropriate prayers.*Hymns and solos may be inserted at these pointsYou may wish to think of people from your family and friends who can: Read the 1st reading Read the 2nd reading (optional) Read The Universal Prayer Bring forward the gifts of bread and wineReadings at MassWe encourage family members and friends to take part in the Liturgy of the Word by reading theFirst Reading and Second Reading (optional) and the Prayer of the Faithful. Copies of theauthorized readings are included at the back of this booklet. Other readings may be included in avigil service.-5-

OTHER CONSIDERATIONSEulogies and Words of RemembranceNormally individual remembrances should be reserved for the vigil service the afternoon or eveningbefore the day of the Funeral Mass or for a reception following. At the discretion of the Pastor,one message may be read at Mass (by one person) of four to six minutes duration. This isbest read from a script, and it is very helpful if a copy of this is available to the celebrant before theday of the Mass. Other eulogies may be given after the blessing of the Mass.When words of remembrance are included within the funeral Mass, they should focus on thedeceased's journey of faith and Christian virtues. This address should: Be given by one speaker; be brief, lasting not more than 4-6 minutes; be written out; express Christian values and a belief in the hope of eternal life; and, avoid any expression that would not be appropriate within the context of prayer.Financial considerationsFunerals and Memorials are a special ministry of the Church and one where we meet families atdefining moments of faith. No one will be denied the services of the Church for financial reasons; ifthe fees are burdensome, please speak with the priest. The stipend for a priest is at your discretion,but we would recommend 200. This beautiful building is very expensive to maintain and we rely onthe goodness of our parishioners and friends to keep it open. As a guideline we would hope thatyou could consider a church gift starting at a figure equivalent to 10% of the cost of the funeral andassociated reception. The recommended minimum donation for use of the church is 500. Theyshould be paid on or before the day of the funeral.Which part of the churchFor congregations of up to 100 you may like to consider using our intimate and beautiful LadyChapel. For congregations of over 100 people the nave and High Altar are most appropriate. Thelocation in church makes no difference in the content of the funeral rites.Displays and photographsWe welcome displays of photographs and memorabilia at the entrance to the church or L:adyChapel. A framed portrait my be displayed on an easel near the altar.FlowersWe welcome flowers and wreaths as part of the funeral celebration. During Lent we do not useflowers on the altar, but they can be displayed around the casket and at the communion rail.Flowers are not displayed at the Columbarium.ColumbariumIf you are interested in a niche for placing cremated remains in our Columbarium, please make anappointment to discuss this with Judie Doherty, Michael Rossi or any Parish Priest.Memorial GiftsYou may wish to encourage friends and family to make Memorial Gifts to St. Dominic’sChurch. These gifts are received in the name of the one who has died, and the immediate family isnotified of these gifts. Memorial gifts may be used for the general needs of the church, or may be-6-

designated for one or more specific purposes, such as church restoration, community service, theColumbarium or the music program. If you wish to have Memorial Gifts made to St. Dominic’sChurch, it will be indicated in the funeral program.Consolation MinistryWe have a ministry dedicated to providing companionship to you during this sad time. Pleasecontact the parish office (415) 567-7824.MUSICMusic is an important part of ritual, and we encourage families to make full use of the Church’s richtradition and the parish’s musical resources.Music before and after the MassMusic for all liturgies is under the direction of the Director of Music and Liturgy, Simon Berry*.Organ music can provide a quiet and prayerful atmosphere at the beginning of the service, whenmourners are likely to be upset and in need of a calming atmosphere. At the end of the Mass, whenthe cortège leaves the church for the final resting place, it is good to have some uplifting andreassuring music.Hymns, Psalms and Spiritual SongsDuring a liturgy that lasts around 60 minutes, it is good to allow everyone present to participate inthe singing. The hymns, psalms and spiritual songs that are chosen need to be familiar to a goodnumber of the congregation so that the singing is strong. Our hymnal contains many fine itemsfrom which you may wish to choose. There may be material not included in our resources that youwish to use. In this case, we will need to arrange for the words to be printed. In all cases, youshould talk with Mr. Berry as soon as you are able.Soloists and ChoirsMany people like to have a solo sung. We recommend that one of our skilled cantors lead thesinging of the Psalm and the Eucharistic music, and sing one or more of the many appropriate solosthat you may choose. It is also possible for one of our choirs to sing, or for a group of professionalsingers to be hired. Our Director of Music will be pleased to advise you on this and help withchoices.Music fees are 225 for our organist and 200 for the cantor. These fees may be paidthrough the funeral home or by a family member directly to the musicians. They should bepaid on or before the day of the funeral.Recorded MusicWe recognize the importance of certain recorded songs. Recorded music may be proper at a vigilservice or at a reception but not during Mass.*Simon Berry, Director of Music and LiturgySt. Dominic’s Catholic Church2390 Bush Street,San Francisco, CA 94115.415.567.7824 x 104-7-

MUSIC FOR FUNERALS AND MEMORIAL MASSESThe songs at funerals a memorials should be of a religious nature.The most commonly requested hymns and songsAmazing GraceI am the bread of lifeOn eagle’s wingsO God our help in ages pastThe King of love my shepherd isJerusalem my happy homeHow lovely is your dwelling placeHow great thou artLitany of the SaintsMine eyes have seen the coming of the glory of the Lord.Danny Boy/Londonderry Air – we have a hymn text that fits this tune and is very suitable.Precious LordBe not afraidMake me a channel of your peace (Prayer of St. Francis)You Are MineBe Thou My VisionOther hymns and songs may be requested.SolosI Know that my redeemer liveth from Messiah (Handel)Laudate Dominum (Mozart)In Paradisum (Chant)Healer of our every Ill (Haugen)Pie Jesu from Requiem Mass (Fauré)Ave Maria (Schubert)Ave Maria (Gounod)The Lord’s Prayer (Malotte) [not a liturgical setting of the prayer]Panis Angelicus (Franck)Nunc Dimitis (Burgon)Bag PipesBag pipes are sometimes culturally important. As they are instruments designed to be playedoutdoors we welcome their use on the steps of the church before or at the end of a service or tolead a procession out of church. We have a very skilled bagpiper who can be hired to do a verygood job.-8-

OLD TESTAMENT READINGSThis is a short list of the most appropriate readings for Mass. There are more readings in the appendix.1. Job 19:1, 23-27A reading from the book of JobThen Job answered and said: Oh, would that my words were written down! Would that they wereinscribed in a record: that with an iron chisel and with lead they were cut in the rock forever! But asfor me, I know that my Vindicator lives, and that he will at last stand forth upon the dust; whom Imyself shall see: my own eyes, not another’s, shall behold him, and from my flesh I shall see God;my inmost being is consumed with longing.The Word of the Lord2. Wisdom 3:1-9 or 3:1-6. 9A reading from the book of WisdomThe words in italics may be omittedBut the souls of the just are in the hand of God, and no torment shall touch them. They seemed, inthe view of the foolish, to be dead; and their passing away was thought an affliction and their goingforth from us, utter destruction. But they are in peace. For if before men, indeed, they be punished,yet is their hope full of immortality; chastised a little, they shall be greatly blessed, because God triedthem and found them worthy of himself. As gold in the furnace, he proved them, and as sacrificialofferings he took them to himsel